I bet that 20 years ago few people celebrated the demise of their marriages with parties, t-shirts, or painted car windows. Maybe I’m wrong but I feel like the celebration part of the process is something new. Resources like the Divorce Shower Store haven’t been around for very long after all. I’m sure that formal divorce parties are more popular with divorced ladies than with guys.
A co-worker of mine sent me the picture of this car yesterday. Is this guy really elated to be free or is this form of expression just something he needs to do to help him move on? He is sending a message to someone – maybe his buddies, possibly his ex, or maybe even himself. Divorce can cause a normal person to do some strange things like using their ex-wife’s wedding dress as a jump rope.
I did not throw myself a divorce party and none of my friends threw one for me. My brother and friends did drag me out of my cave for a night out about a week after my ex-wife left. They took me to our local comedy club and then to a bar. I wasn’t driving and it was intended to be a pain relieving outing so I made the most of it. Our time at the bar did turn into a celebration of sorts with a few rounds of shots. Each round was preceded by a chant said by our crew that made it clear to everyone within earshot that I was newly divorced. If nothing else we entertained the bar staff and a lot of fellow bar-goers that night.
I read a story on MSN yesterday about some jeweler who has created a divorce ring complete with broken heart and diamond. It has to be one of the most stupid things I have ever seen. No person is going to buy that ring to gift to their partner while asking for a divorce. And who would want to wear a broken heart ring on their hand as a reminder of their ex? If you are going to wear that ring you might as well keep your wedding pictures up and just draw a line between you and your ex (and possibly give them a silly mustache). I’m all for buying oneself a divorce gift. I took ownership of my space by treating myself to a few things one of which was a grill. Obviously no guy is going to ever wear the broken hear ring, but I can’t imagine any woman would want to either.
Let me know if you did anything special to celebrate your divorce either by commenting here or by dropping me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org.